Resumo de How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk

Recently, on the polish market more and more popular become handbooks which are trying to answer questions about motivating others, solving conflicts, making friends, ect. Those publications awake enthusiasm connected with addressing books to the wide group of readers but on the other hand there can be fear of simplified description of the situation. When it comes to raising a child, those doubts become especially difficult. The same problem had Adele Faber and Elaine Mazalish during writing discussed position. Yet, parents requests ? after authors? first successes ? made them to undertake writing the manual. It seems they excellent overcame obstacles standing just in front of them. Advantages of this book result from emphasising child?s enormous abilities, its individuality and its of independence. On the other hand, valuable is a form of the book containing practical exercises. Special advantage of presented book is a supplement called: ?Experiences of polish parents? written by Zofia ?piewak. It shows typical reactions of polish parents in different educational situations. The manual consists of six chapters and a summary. There?re presented such a problems like: children?s managing with their own emotions, encouraging them to cooperation and independence, punishing and rewarding and releasing children from acting. The basic book?s assumption is a statement that child?s behaviour is conditioned by outdate feelings. Problems with child?s behaviour are also connected with troubles with expressing feelings. Children?s inability of expressing their own feelings is result of parents? conduct who during contact with them often use others adults? rights and don?t listen to children?s argumentation. This is the first parents? mistake. The second ? negation of feelings which are declared by children and imposing them their own opinions. We can express it for example using a sentence: ?You aren?t tired but sleepy?. In educational contacts with a child extremely important is attentive listening and confirmation of your approval of its feelings by suitable words. Parents have often problems with accepting statements which express negative emotions, for example when child says: ?I hate my sister?. Such a words most often arouse fear in adults because they understand them as a permanent relation to other person, while children describe brief emotion connected with concrete situation. But expressing negative feelings, at the same time gives a chance to reveal positive ones. The full expression of child?s feelings is also using a fantasy. Yet this is us ? adults who first of all should be conscious of experiencing two types of feelings when it comes to our children. Our ability to acceptation of discouragement, anger, sadness ect. let children learn themselves how to cope with those emotions.

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