Resumo de Body Language To Attract

What is the Physical Spark of Sexual Tension?
One of the biggest ways a man loses out in that critical ?beginning? time with a new woman he?s interested in is by not letting her know right away he?s interested in her as a woman. You have to create sexual tension, and then let time pass to build on it.
No, I?m not suggesting your opening line should be ?when can we fuck?? But if in your fear of being rejected you wuss out and waffle in the signals you give her, the only thing that?s going to happen is confusion, not connection.
Believe it or not, more guys -- Nice Guys suffering from Nice Guy Disease -- lose out because they weren?t clear in their physical interest than men who are far too obvious. It`s so important, you need to create that sexual tension as soon as you possibly can.
A woman needs to be shown right away that you?re not going to roll over and beg for her affection, but given the opportunity you?d definitely like to get to know her better in a Biblical sense. But you don?t have to behave like a Neanderthal, or use some of those sly, vocal stylings to try and hypnotize her into being attracted. In fact, you don?t even have to be `cocky & funny` if that isn?t your game.
But you do have to show her your interest with your actions and body language.
I`ve seen guys who don`t say much -- who keep their mouth shut for the most part -- get hooked up with women because of the sexual tension they can create just with their demeanor and attitude. Put them in a room full of guys trying to be cocky/funny, and it makes the guys trying to be cocky/funny seem desperate for attention. It really creates a contrast that does not work well for the cocky/funnies.

Want To Create Sexual Tension? Here`s How:
1. Maintain strong eye contact when you talk to her. No, don?t stare her down, but make sure you look her in the eye and hold the connection for a few seconds throughout your conversation. To amp up the flirting look from her eyes to her lips and back while holding strong eye contact.
2. Get physically close to her. Don?t totally invade her space and stand right on top of her, but do find ways to make physical contact with her very briefly ? you might emphasize a point by touching her arm, or if she?s holding a book lean in close to read the title, even touching her on the shoulder when you part works. Another great trick is to tell her a secret, this way you have to lean in almost close enough to kiss her. Again, don?t hang in her space, but show that you?re not afraid to move in and get physical ? which lets her know your interest is physical too.
3. Make an observation about her. This is where most advice columnists are advising you to be ?cocky & funny? and to tease her. If you feel comfortable with this type of thing, and if she?s already shown you she has a great sense of humor, go for it. But if it?s not your thing you can still use observations about a woman to let her know she?s caught your curiosity. Maybe she?s wearing unusual jewelry, or has a funky purse, or she has your favorite color of red hair. Just a note of caution, however, your comment should not indicate you?ve been up all night thinking about her, nor should it be an opening for you to now share copious details about your own life. Keep a lid on it, this isn?t the time to share you?ve collected every Happy Meal since 1982 just because she?s enjoying some fries from the Golden Arches.
And keep up the keen observations, be the guy who really sees her. Don?t fawn after her, but make sure she knows you?re noticing her.
4. Allude to a future. If you don?t have the nerve to ask her out right away at least have the nerve to say, ?we should hang out sometime? or ?we should go hear them play sometime,? or whatever other interest you have in common that you could spend time together. By doing this you?re also a little mysterious. She might wonder why you don?t ask her out now ? but trust me, she won?t automatically thinkit?s because you?re too shy. And when you finally do get up the nerve to ask her to ?hand out? make it clear it?s a date, not the two of you lazing through the day together (well, that?s fine after you?ve established what sort of relationship you want).
5. Keep your initial interactions brief. Always think, ?Less is more.? It?s better to be the guy who gives her the wicked grin and says something like, ?I dig your shirt,? or ?there?s my favorite redhead? in pasting, than to be the guy who stands there and doesn?t have the nerve to ask a woman out, but still drones on forever to her in the parking lot (same goes for IM contact or emails ? yep, they count).

To Keep The Sexual Tension Alive, Don?t Become Her Buddy

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