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Even for the most ardent reader of non-fiction could a book of that kind
become unputdownable. That is what I found this book to be. The insight it
gives into the differences between the sexes makes the most sense to someone
who has had the (mis)fortune to be distraught, but live in a relationship that
is intimate, almost impossible to get out, i.e. in marriage. Well, apart from
social conditioning, it is also honestly, the lack of courage to miss the
?goodies?. The whole argument by the authors hinges around evolution, going
back to millions of years homo sapiens has taken to be where he or she is.
This evolutionary hang-up is still there aver the authors. Several other
strategies like political correctness movements, religious conditioning have
been used ?unsuccessfully? to rein in the ?unruly? nature of man or the
?talkative? nature of woman, but Nature is still the winner. The presentation
is humorous throughout, but hits home the ideas pretty well. Though education,
training and popular books on self-development are trying to make people use
both sides of their brains, there still seems to be an essential difference in
the way the female and male brains are ?wired?. Many books have described in
different ways, what the authors have tried to convey, like John Gray?s "Men are
from Mars and Women are from Venus", but this book drives home the best. Or is it
just the timing in my life? Anywhichway this book is a product of very good amount of
research and serious effort.

A book?s presentation could be considered good when any
intelligent, interested reader comes to the very conclusion that the authors
have come to, just a few paragraphs or pages before the authors do. This is what
happened when the authors' recommendation on how to choose a marriage partner
come up with "look for the points of most common agreement for relatinships on a long term basis", for
Nature has wired the male and female brains in such a way as to throw this
caution to the winds.Nature wants only procreation, a

furthering of the species. I had always wanted to design a
marriage partner questionnaire which ensures two people come together in a long
term relationship, only if peaceful days are guaranteed after marriage. To this
end I learnt that apart from Karma as the deluder there is also Nature?s
purpose at work!

The thing that makes one sigh is the reduction of all
sexual, romantic, love-oriented behaviors to mere biochemistry--- of the male
and female hormones. If only such scientific detachment could be used to locate
partners, condition oneself to face the communication breakdowns that are part
of many relationships, there would have been no need for the religious and
other explanations. The conclusion is hard hitting: ?Men want Power Achievement
and Sex. Women want Relationships, Stability and Love. To feel upset about this
as useful as abusing the sky for raining ? In the same way anticipating the
difficulties or conflicts that might arise in relationships as a results o our
differences enables you top anticipating and defuse them as they occur.?

Though the book does not say anything new that we do not
know at a subconscious level, it successfully brings those ideas to the fore
and focus so that one is persuaded to work at a relationship. This is more so
for a man who cannot take similar messages of the other books which probably
work more at the psychological level.

The authors have succeeded, in encouraging me to read
through John Gray?s classic.

Gadhisunu

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