Resumo de Secrets All Men Keep

My artical which I'm writing is taken from the magazine, "Today's Black Women". It's an artical composed by the author whom has interviewed several of men on relationship issuses about infidelity and trust. I found it to have been very interesting because of the topic itself and because this is a hot subject that every couple should address. The secrets in which these men keep are so crass. They rather tell " white lies" instead of telling their significate others the truth about what their really thinking and what they have done while they were in their relationships. Like , they fall in love ten times a day and it's not with you, How they are really scared of commitment, Being the "bread winner" of the relationship makes them feel important, They like it when we mother them;but hate the fact that we're becoming our mother, or That when we talk to them , that they really aren't paying us any attention. The author also stated that to these men, they feel they aren't lying but just not telling you the whole story about what's going on. He also asked them how many of them have cheated on their significate other? The answer was so surprising. They wanted to know if oral sex was concidered cheating. Duh! If it has the word "sex" behind it , well don't you think it's concidered cheating . It doesn't matter if it was oral or internal, it was sex! And I believe that it's cheating and that's infidelity. Like the old saying goes , "Once a cheater , always a cheater!"And there isn't too many men out there that can prove that theray wrong. My opinion , I think it's so much easier to tell the truth instead of covering it up. Someone can really get hurt behind stuff like that or worse, someone can die behind it.To establish trust , you have to tell the truth about the innocuous stuff. Often times , we are not sure about our boundaries lies until we are forced to take a closer, more honest, look at our feelings.We have to look at infidelity in
physical terms. We also have to look at it in the emotional term as well. Some of us think we can deal with it emotionally but in reality we can't. We start to feel rel guilty. It seems that the deciet and lies, the breach of trust that is most likely to destroy a relationship. Finally, whether this is about sharing your mind, parts, or all of your body, the qualitis of infidelity is a matter that only you and your partner can decide.I feel like we should always think about the consequences before we react on our sexual impulses and sexual thoughts. Because trying to cover them up or just not telling the whole truth may leave anyone scorned and feeling betrayed.That's what initially tears apart an relationship and keeps us from trusting another person as long as dating and casual sex is involved.

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