Resumo de Helping Kids Cope With Frustrations...

Teaching a child requires keen observation and an accurate understanding of who your children are and how they work. Every tantrum and every outburst is provoked by something whether it is a child not getting his or her own way, or the common frustration of being so small in such a big world. Children lack the knowledge and life experience that is needed for adults to function in a big and busy world, which is also the same world that children have yet to learn about. Children crave knowledge. There is always room for a lesson. Look at this example with my four-year-old son, Mark Le:
Mark Le is tired and rather cranky. I have told him to choose a quiet activity such as coloring so that he can take some timeout to calm and slow down. Mark Le agrees without complaint and gets his coloring books, construction paper, crayons and markers out. He carefully puts them onto the coffee table ever so carefully choosing just the right spot to set them, and sat on the carpeted floor below the table, and began to color. Two or three minutes passed before Mark Le decided that he wanted to sit in his rocking chair so that he could reach a little bit better. I agreed that he could. At that point Mark Le decided to move the chair him self, without any help. However, he was trying to slide the child sized wooden rocking chair between the playpen and the couch, which happened to be narrower than the width of the chair. When he realized that it wouldn?t work that way, he automatically came whining to mommy, so mad and upset because it wasn?t working according to the way he believed it should. I as his mother then considered these following two options of the many ways I could handle that particular situation? I, one, could have went and completed his task for him to avoid a battle that may have been about to occur, or second, I could have told him to keep trying and explained to him why his way hadn?t worked for him his way. The way that I handle this situation will determine what the next situation be become. I kept that thought in my mind. What did I do? Well, as I said, Mark Le is tired and cranky. All he wants to do right now is to color and relax. Was I going to risk losing that period of good behavior? No way. So, I calmly told Mark Le that I would be more than happy to help if he could come to me and ask nicely, more calmed down and less frustrated and whiney. He did, after a minute. I then explained to him that his chair was too wide to be slid through that narrow space, physically pointing each thought out, then gave a brief and simple demonstration of an easier way for him to handle this job in the future. Now, when ever Mark Le encounters this same or similar situations he knows to look for and think of a better way to accomplish his goals when something doesn?t go his way, he gets the chore done himself with little trouble, and he has also learned that mommy is right there to help, guide and teach him if he can ask nicely rather than to whine. Can you see how many lessons other than those just stated are taught by dealing with just this one situation? Tons! Each one is positive and beneficial.

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