Resumo de Emotion Management

Before you jump to any conclusions as to what 'it ' means , let me be clear that I am referring to 'Emotions' here. Now the emotions or feelings can be positive or negative. But letting it out applies to all kinds. Confused? Don't be, let's talk.
As for the negative emotions like anger, revenge or hate, one can easily understand, why these should not be bottled up inside. If you do that you are turning yourself into a pressure-cooker like person. And there is a limit to how much pressure a cooker can take. Once that limit is reached, it bursts. Do you want to keep sulking to that level? No, na. So, just like the pressure cooker releases steam at the regular intervals, we need to let our emotions out frequently. Now I'm not asking you to take a stick and start beating your younger siblings to give your anger an outlet or to shout choicest names' at the persons you hate , or to do some other nasty things.
When I say "let your emotions out", what I mean is, to give a decent outlet. So, if you didn't like something your friend did to you. Don't be a Kaikeyi. Be a Laxman.
Say what you feel. Most of the times you will see that the reason for your anger was merely a misunderstanding. Ask me, I am a very slow learner and I have had my share of experiences. If you feel that your parents are treating you and your brother differently and he is getting more love and pocket money , then you know what you have to do, let-it-out. Don't just crib and grumble. And you know what , you may be in for a pleasant surprise, when your parents remove your misconceptions. But I understand that there may be times when you realize that you are wrong, but you can't control your anger at the way the things are, or the way the Cosmos is being run. For those times, each individual (grown-ups do it , so you can try it out) has his own style. Some use their pens. No, not for poking. They write in a diary, or pen a creative piece to give vent to their emotions. Some just walk, others exercise. So find out what cools you down and when you get angry, right or wrong, do that thing. Simple, isn't it? So to stop anger to from becoming a D-anger to you, do something as in D-O-Do.
Have you ever felt like hugging your mom or dad for making you happy. If you have and you hugged, then it's OK. But if you felt like but did not, then I have a problem. Yep, we are talking about positive emotions now. In India, we mis-interpret respect at times. Some kids will say this is not how our family lives. Family what ? You ARE a part of that family. No one stops you from expressing your love, affection and emotions. No family member will kill you for hugging or kissing him. Rather a simple thankyou-hug or kiss , love-you-hug , sorry-hug would ease off the tensions. Remember Jadoo-ki-jhappi! So here's another Sanjay (not Dutt though) recommending a Jhappi. Go ahead and do it. Was there a time when you chose a gift for someone after searching the whole market and person didn't even say thanks, leave aside appreciating the thought and selection? How did you feel? Remember this, when someone gives you a gift or does something good to you. Don't just feel good , say it loud and clear. Now you may bump into people like me who don't know how to accept compliments gracefully, but that shouldn't stop you from genuinely praising someone.
Here I'll share one secret with you. I have this habit of passing on the praise to the right person, which helps me a lot. How does it work? Simple. If my friend Amit praises another friend Atul behind his back , I later tell Atul that Amit was praising you. When they will talk, Amit will know that I passed on the praise. See, I won two hearts by this selfless act. Try, it works.
I hope you understand now, what I mean when I say, let it all hang out. Here's wishing that my little tips will help you whistle your blues away.

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